One Perspective on Why Bad Things Happen to Good People

So, why do bad things happen to good people?

This question is commonly asked by the general public all the time! Depending on how receptive the person asking can be, this can be an incredibly difficult question to answer. 

Here's one perspective:

Only you can control how you react to any situation that comes your way. People need to be challenged mentally, physically and spiritually. If we were never provided with opportunities to grow, we would all be sitting around staring at each other for absolutely no reason. Instead of thinking of it as 'good people,' I prefer to think of it as 'strong people.' Strong people are able to see past the obstacles in front of them. They know in their hearts that they are protected and taken care of - that God will lead the way. 

Because of this, they are strong enough to not only handle the situation but learn from the event and grow in the direction they were designed to in order to impact another brother or sister of God. Strong people are still human, so of course, there are plenty of questioning and misunderstanding. However, in the long run, going through the HEAVY situations we find ourselves in should remind us of God's love every second of every day! 

Take pride in knowing that God is preparing you for GREATNESS!! Take your experience and help others that find themselves in a similar struggle. Help them grow to become believers through your words, your actions and your beliefs. Even if they are not going through what you did/are, your ability to stand tall and not drown yourself in sorrow may inspire someone else to do the same. 

 Your behavior may be the inspiration someone else needs just to get through the day.
-Anonymous Joe

Relationships Pt 1

This is one of the harder topics for me to talk about, but I did have a couple questions about it. So, I'll do my best...

How has dating been for you?

This is hard because every relationship I've been in has been so different mostly because they all happened at different times in my transition. I have a bad habit of getting attached to acceptance, and that's what gets me in trouble - every time. Currently, dating and relationships are completely off the table. I feel like I need to keep working on myself and my own personal growth and acceptance before I can be a part of a healthy relationship. I've been in a few long term relationships as well as a couple shorter endeavors. All have helped me grow and I am forever grateful for those experiences.

I can tell you this... I'm incredibly paranoid of leading people on or misleading someone when it comes to having anywhere near feelings for me. So, I am very cautious about telling anyone I date about it. I am diligent about being up front about it as soon as possible if there's even a remote chance of something happening.

There have been so many times even still that I've thought I wasn't good enough, not man enough, for a true, lasting, loving relationship. My insecurities in this regard completely take over sometimes, and I just have to remember to breathe and accept my situation. I accepted that I may never be a dad and I may never be a husband, and that's OK. All I can do is pray about it and have full trust in God's plan.

"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you." Matthew 7:7

-Anonymous Joe